“The only thing harder than letting go is hanging on” – Lori McKenna
My focus for today is on letting go. What emotions coming rushing to the surface for you when I mention that? Are they positive or negative? Some of you may have quickly jumped to the remembering the loss of a loved one, the disappointment of cancelled plans, not being picked for the promotion or a broken relationship. Others might have struggled to remember the bag of clothes you took to the second hand store, the book you gave to a co-worker or the money you invested in a new vehicle. The truth is we are all letting go of many things every day. We let go of sleep when we wake. We let go of the warm refreshing shower after we feel clean. We let go of work when we leave the office. We let go of thinking when we lay our heads on the pillow each night. Our bodies let go of our meals, each breathe, dead skin, and toxins. Letting go is as much a part of our nature as receiving is. We don’t even enter this thing we call life without letting go of the warmth, safety and protection of the womb. Nature also demonstrates this letting go. The ocean lets it’s power go only to receive it again. The trees give up their leaves to receive a new batch in the spring and the sun gives way for darkness. Letting go is a natural part of all life.
Far too often letting go is regarded as a hard and difficult task. We fear letting go of a loved one in death, for fear that to do so, is to forget all the wonderful memories that were created with the individual. We fear letting go of a good paying job when we are bored or feeling frustrated. We fear letting go of our grip on a dream that hasn’t yet been realized. It is our clinging that causes us to suffer. We cling to the past, our rights, our perceptions, our excuses, our beliefs, our judgments, our regrets, our shame and our desire to be right. We struggle because we hang on for all it’s worth to security, certainty and control. The tighter we grip the more we suffer. Our anguish and misery are only relieved when we release the things we are holding most tightly to. Loosening our grip allows us to be free. We choose whether or not we will be free. Paula D’Arcy says it so well in her book the Gift of the Red Bird; “Freedom demands not that we “have” nothing, but rather that there is nothing we cannot give up.” Letting go is necessary if we want to experience freedom and a joyous life.
Each “letting go” creates space for something new. We love new. We love a new pair of shoes, a new hairdo, a new vacation and a new experience. Why do we love new things so much? The new is what allows for growth in our lives. We do not have the capacity to enjoy new growth in our lives without letting go of attachment to something. We move on from first grade to make space for all we will learn in second grade. We let go of the books we outgrow, the clothes we tire of and the routines that leave us feeling stuck. Letting go is necessary if we want to grow and experience vibrant, thriving lives. Are you looking to experience new growth or freedom in your life?
Call to action:
1.) Identify where your struggle is. What is causing the tension in your life? What do you no longer want to feel? What do you no longer want to experience?
2.) Decide what you want to feel and experience in place of your pain and anguish.
3.) Choose to let go so that you can create the space to receive what it is that you do want to experience and feel.
4.) Stay the course. Letting go can be a process, especially with long held beliefs and habits.
5.) Be supported! Don’t try to go it alone. Letting go is most often a progression that involves many layers of letting go and is best accomplished in a supportive community.
That’s why I created the “Letting Go: Your ticket to Freedom and Joy” workshop. In this seven week course we will learn to:
Week 1 – Let go of “should” and perfection to make space for possibilities and meaningful work.
Week 2 – Let go of limiting beliefs to create room for expansion, growth and transformation.
Week 3 – Let go of control, excuses and blaming others to reclaim our power and experience laughter, delight and joy.
Week 4 – Let go of shame, secrecy and what people think of us, to become authentic, transparent individuals which leads to deeper connections and a supportive community.
Week 5 – Let go of critical judgments of self and others to develop sincere compassion and empathy.
Week 6 – Let go of security and the need for certainty to create space for adventure, exploration, play and a deeper sense of trust and following your inner guidance.
Week 7 – Let go of scarcity and the never enough mentality and enjoy the abundance you are surrounded in.
Each participant will learn creative ways of moving beyond their limitations while creating an individualized action plan for creating sustainable changes.
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